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More on ... Managing Anger Anger is a natural emotion that all of us experience from time to time. You can become skilled in how to deal with anger. As a result of learning to manage your anger, it may happen that you become, as some former clients have reported, a "less angry person." You may not be angry less often, but you can know how to deal with your anger more skillfully. People seek out anger management training because their anger-- especially how they express their anger--has landed them in trouble. Sometimes the way they express their anger is a problem at work, sometimes at home, sometimes in all settings. I have worked with folks from many walks of life: postal workers, attorneys, executives, at-home moms, engineers, law enforcement officers, the list is long. A common thread is the limited (and often explosive) way in which people show their anger, a manner that frightens, intimidates and distances others. Commonly, they report that their boss, sister, spouse, co-worker, or best friend told them "you need to do something about your anger." I see anger management as a skill. We have all learned skills of one sort or another...like riding a bicycle. In order to be proficient at bike riding, you need to learn to hold on in certain ways. Sometimes, though, you need to let go. You might need to shift gears when the ride is difficult. Sometimes, you put on the brakes. In order to make safe progress, you may plan ahead and train for challenging situations. Some terrain requires great effort, sometimes you coast effortlessly. Once you master the basics, you can extend your skill and proficiency. Managing anger is similar in that you develop skills for holding on and letting go, planning ahead and dealing with challenges. Because these skills can work for you in various settings, you feel confident. With practice, these skills become second nature, allowing you to use them both quickly and effectively. At the heart of my approach to managing anger are three key elements (click on each one to read more): Key Element #1 How to be less reactive (so it's harder to "push your buttons" in the first place). Key Element #2 What to do with anger when it happens. Key Element #3 How to manage the way you think so you can manage the way you react. ... :: posted by Ralph Notor, MFT 10/23/07 Psychotherapist in San Francisco | Therapist in San Francisco | Anger Therapist in San Francisco | Anger Management Therapist in San Francisco | Anger Management Training | Anger Management | Couples Counseling in San Francisco | Couples Therapist in San Francisco | Marriage Family Therapist in San Francisco | Marriage Therapy | Family Therapy | Hypnosis in San Francisco | Hypnotherapist in San Francisco | Hypnosis Therapy in San Francisco | Workplace counseling in San Francisco | Ralph Notor MFT | Ralph Notor | |
